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GOD DOES EXIST…TRUST ME; JUST TAKE HIS OR HER WORD FOR IT!

23 Oct

For those of you who are religious, those who are believers, and those who are church, mosque, and temple goers, please don’t be fast at judging what I’m about to say. I am a believer too…just please hear me out.

When I was probably thirteen years old, I told my parents that God does not exist, and frankly, that didn’t go so well. Now I realize that if I had explained what I meant before laying such a heavy statement on them, it might have saved me from the storm of rage and disappointment that came my way. One thing for sure, I was not trying to say that I didn’t believe in God, but merely that the statement “God exists” is simply incorrect. If you are angry at this point, I ask you to please just bear with me and allow me to explain!

What is a God?

I am not talking about God as in the Greek mythology type of God, you know, like Poseidon the god of the sea, or Ares the god of war, but about God as the concept of a creator of everything, the ultimate reason behind every reason, a supreme being.

If this God is the creator, then he or she created everything, in fact created the act of creation itself. To be truly supreme, God, has to be above all creation, and has ultimate control over it.

One thing shared by all of God’s creation, is the concept of existence. Heaven, hell, angels, the universe, ideas, principles, good, evil, people, spirit, and anything else, all need the concept of existence in order to exist. Some do as flesh and blood, some as spirits, some as concepts and thoughts, and some as principles, everyone and everything exists even if in various forms and states. The concept of existence was not there till God created it, and as such God was there before it.

Our brains, are created to operate within the logic they were created in, one plus one is two, for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction, and so on and so forth…

Whatever form of existence we can ever be capable of understanding is one that abides by such logic.

Faith is something we feel and our inspired by, and sometimes makes us believe in things that are metaphysical and cannot be explained by our mechanical logic. However, feelings, inspiration, and belief, are all part of our reality. Reality, once again, is another one of those concepts created for our world, one that we as creations abide by.

Imagine our world, this creation of God, as a domain that is confined within the walls of existence, logic, and reality. God is above all of that, and these walls do not confine him or her, neither does he or she abide by any such concepts.

There is nothing true or correct about our explaining of God’s existence. Our feelings and belief in God do not explain God’s existence, for they are part of our reality, which he or she does not abide by. Our logic, by its nature, makes us seek a reason for we are here, hence our search for a God, however, logic cannot explain God’s existence, because God created it and is above it.

That’s why, and based on what we know about existence, God does not exist. Saying that God exists, is untrue and incorrect, and is just a way for us to reference our belief in the concept of a God, an entity that is greater than ourselves, a reason behind every other reason. Follow my line of thinking here for a second: you say God exists, God created the act of existence and what ever form of it you are capable of imagining, so what was God before he created that concept, that word, existence? did he not exist? well if you believe in God, then for sure he did, but what ever form, way, or concept that can be used to explain his existence, is not something that anyone can ever understand. it’s not even a matter of being smart or having faith, it’s simply impossible because the brains, spirits, feelings, and heart that we use in trying to feel, love, or understand God are all part of our world that is beneath him or her.

Whenever you explain something you conquer it, because your explanation rises above it. Therefore, and since we can never rise above what created us, we can never understand God, neither can we ever explain his existence or anything else about him or her. If you believe in any religion, and believe it to be truly God sent, it’s best that you read what it says about God’s existence. I believe, since we will never be able to figure God out, as we are not equipped for it, I think it’s best that we just take his or her word for it.

And yes, I know, what a screwed up in the head thirteen year old kid I was, to be thinking about this…right!

SO COMPLEX, IT’S SIMPLE!

20 Oct

Simplicity is the outcome of utmost complexity. We all come to earth as babies, simple beings. As we go through life, we become more and more complex. We experience physical changes, interact with other people, and discover the world around us. Education, love, friendship, parents, children, sadness, happiness, are just parts of what we go through along the way. We develop wants not just needs, we develop relationships with friends and lovers not just caregivers, we develop opinions not just reactions, and we set out to discover the world instead of being subjected to it.

A real life example would be in the way we form our relationships. In the early stages of childhood, our relationships are limited to caregivers, protectors, and entertainers. Our interaction with them is also limited to happiness or sadness, and what feels good or bad. As we get older, our relationships involve more vocabulary, such as control, love, respect, trust, hate, connect, fun, inspire, etc…. During this period of trial and error, life becomes very complicated as we experiment with love, friendship, and identity. Out of this chaos, and only if we have been learning from our experiences, a simple form does emerge, a clearer self, one that has a better understanding of the world and how it reacts to it. Our relationships become more specific, our friends are split into best friends or acquaintances, and our lovers become soul mates.

In geometry a straight line is the simplest of shapes, yet this simple and straight form is nothing less than the result of complexity at its highest levels. Life starts like the smooth surface of a straight line, pure and simple. It gets corrupted by the complex shapes that life throws at it, complex shapes that keep coming together only to form that straight, smooth, and simple surface once again.

The more we accumulate of life’s experiences, the more we understand life and how we react to it. Those of us who stop at various points of their lives to reflect on how they’re evolving, and what lessons they’ve learned, are more capable of filling up the gaps in their life line, and as such, simplify their lives as they go. We grow older and older, and once again we become like babies, simple beings. We look for needs not wants, seek caregivers not just lovers, and receive whatever the world throws our way instead of trying to explore anymore of it. At this point, we are evolved beings that have seen life, have narrowed it down to its most basic realities, and are at peace with it and themselves. We, would have been through it all, and completely understand that life is so complex, it’s simple.

Good luck!

YOU

21 Sep

   You, me, and probably most others, must have been asked at a staff meeting, a class, or even a group get together, to stand up and introduce yourself. Would you please tell us about yourself? Please tell us who you are.

Now just like the rest of us, you stood up, if courteous enough, and said:” my name is X,  I come from Y, and I have done Z. Of course paying attention to your selection method of information that pertains to that specific gathering, be it a class, or a job, or whatever else that you were attending at the time.

My question is, have you attended one of those meetings with yourself. A meeting where you would be the one asking, who am I? such an introduction of who you are to yourself would be far more important than doing so in front of anyone else. In fact, if you can’t answer that question, or have not answered that question clearly to your own self, no matter how good of a conversationist you could be, you will not deliver a true and honest answer. An answer that would truly describe to others, important others or not, who you really are.

There are few aspects that pertain to our human existence as people living a life with a past, present and future desires. Aspects that we collect over time through experiencing life, and some that we hold so dear to us, that end up as methods we use to identify who we are: favorite foods, favorite activities, talent, history, likes and dislikes, characteristics, social status. Some are more solid than others such as gender, or ethnicity. Incase you had one of those ” I object” moments, yes even gender and ethnicities are aspects that we collect, formulate, or are channeled into over time.

Let’s place all of what I mentioned above into a category I like to call the collectibles, and the reason I do so is because I’m about to strip you of all of what is not really you, or yours.

You are not a male or a female, as both are descriptions that society has come to a collective conscious decision to what they really mean or stand for. Maybe biologically, but that does not have to be you. Don’t forget your body is just the result of a genetic roll of dice that makes it male, female, tall, short, black, or white.

You like Chinese food because of a lucky break Chinese food got some where along your life line. Chinese food was simply at the right time and place when you had it, only to be followed by a precise chemical reaction strong enough to place this experience among your favorite foods. Same goes to the sport you picked up, and the the talents you developed. Your mannerism, your dress code, style, and behavior, are all nothing but either the result of a precise set of circumstances that you have experienced at very important periods of your development, or winning characteristics that made it to the top of the food chain in your psychological jungle at some point in time.

I imagine that it’s pretty easy at this point to deduce my thoughts on all of what you have been through or have achieved in life so far. None of it is who you are. I want to strip you down to you.

Pardon me if I haven’t been clear when I asked, who are you?

The YOU I speak of is you at the purest level. The you that is left when you, are stripped of all the so called COLLECTIBLES. What is left then? What YOU, remains then? If any.

Well, I think plenty …….

If you are able to get down to such naked level of you, well you’re battle would have just started.

You know what, why do you like Chinese food?

Why are you patient or impatient?

What happens if you never picked up basketball or knitting?

What if you are not a shy person or have never really been?

Would you still be YOU?

What would happen if you questioned the most reliable things you know of yourself?

You would never sky dive, you don’t dance, you would never approach a person you are attracted to and ask him or her out, and you most certainly would never go skinny dipping. Well this week, do all of the above. Give that YOU, that you think you know, a jolt of of emotions you have not experienced yet. Get out of your comfort zone. Confront your obnoxious boss and tell him off, because even though you are not a confrontational person, you might be.

Are you uncomfortable yet?

Revolt against the YOU that has been so far the result of your life and what it has brought you. Give birth to a free YOU that is unidentifiable to any, unrecognizable by any, a YOU that, only you can tell is there.

That’s exactly it ….. That is the YOU I am talking about. The feeling you are experiencing right about now… This new feeling of ….. Well… YOU.

You are now naked and striped down to the bone, a person without wants, desires, favorites, likes, dislikes, and gender, a person without a name that your mom and dad felt goes beautifully with your last name when you were born.

If you are able to feel a YOU at this point, then you have won that battle.

Winning the war would be to start there, and only then start attaching these collectibles that you so mistakenly though were representative of who you are.

If you do so honestly and boldly, I can guarantee you a YOU that is really representative of who you are.

Don’t forget that if you were abandoned in a jungle and raised by wolfs like Mogly from ” The Jungle Book” you would have probably thought that you too were a wolf, and that’s ok if that’s what YOU, really feels like.

Good luck!